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It’s safe to say that of all the important events in your lifetime, your wedding day is certain to be right up there with those that are the most meaningful. And throughout the entire wedding day – the preparations, the ceremony, the reception, and the wedding night – the moment when you recite your wedding vows to each other is the most meaningful.
It is
a time that you will remember forever, exactly as it felt: a sublime,
dreamlike fantastical moment, when everyone significant to you is
watching as you join in wedlock with the most important individual in
your life. Conquering
Your Fears Since
this is such a unique and central moment to your romantic life, you’re
probably wondering how it is that you’ll make the experience better
than that 10th grade public-speaking assignment where you blanked out
halfway through and fainted in front of all of your peers. Begin by
telling yourself that it is perfectly natural to feel nervous when
speaking in public. Moreover, not everyone is born with perfect
public-speaking skills that accurately demonstrate what they feel in
their hearts. However, fortunately for the majority of us, these things
can be learned. Of course, being well-prepared and armed with wedding vows you know are the absolute best they could possibly be is one of the easiest ways to overcome these fears. How do I know? Because the home-study course I put together, The Ultimate Wedding Vow Toolkit, has helped hundreds of couples take the fear out of their wedding ceremony by giving them the tools they need to write truly amazing wedding vows. You can find out more about the kit at http://www.weddingvowtoolkit.com.
But
beyond that, when you think logically about each of these fears,
you’ll realize there is nothing that cannot be overcome with a bit of
care, technique, and practice. Let’s take a realistic look at these
five incredibly common worries. In a few minutes, you’ll see that none
of them are likely to spoil your ceremony. Common
Fear #1: Freezing Up This
is a direct result of being excessively nervous. Therefore, it’s
important to come up with some calming techniques that will help you to
keep cool. It’s only natural to be a bit nervous. In fact, the added
rush from being a little on the anxious side can actually help you to
speak better and with added feeling. The best technique that you can
give yourself is breathing. Most often, when we are overly frightened,
we either breathe much too quickly or we hold our breath. Therefore, as
you’re keeping yourself calm, concentrate on breathing smoothly,
neither too fast or too slow, but regularly, in through your nose and
out through your mouth. Practice a few times in advance, especially in
other situations that you’ve found a bit stressful in the past.
You’ll be surprised at what an enormous difference something as simple
as breathing can do for you. Common
Fear #2: Going Blank This
is another trick played by your overly-nervous brain. To stop yourself
from becoming so nervous that you go blank, or even to remove any fear
that you may go blank, bring a “backup” copy of your wedding vows on
cue cards that you can slip into your pocket. Make sure they are very
crisp and neat looking so that you won’t hesitate to use them if you
have to, and write clearly on them so that you won’t get stuck due to
sloppiness. Common
Fear #3: Blushing, Dry Mouth, and Shaking. These
are extremely common physical responses to being nervous and having to
perform in front of others. However, even if they do begin to occur, you
can bring yourself to a calmer state where these physical symptoms will
begin to fade. Try to ignore blushing and shaking as much as possible
and just concentrate on your vows and how much you love the person to
whom you are making those vows. With regards to dry mouth, drink lots of
water beforehand, and try not to think about it. As long as you
concentrate on what you’re doing, instead of the fact that you are
blushing, shaking, or have a dry mouth, they will actually begin to
resolve themselves quite quickly. Common
Fear #4: Having Someone Heckle This
is a common fear, but it simply doesn’t happen at weddings. Remind
yourself that everyone there with you is hoping the very best for you
and your future spouse. They are all nervous right along with you and
wouldn’t dream of saying anything but best wishes for your future
together. The closest they will come to “heckling” is sending a
mental prayer to provide you the strength and the courage to continue so
that you may enjoy long and happy lives together. Common
Fear #5: Being Judged The
people attending your wedding are all people who know you, like or love
you, and who wish you the very best. They know how much adrenaline is
running through your system as you say your wedding vows, and wouldn’t
judge you at a time like that; except to think about how well suited you
are to the love of your life.
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